So this is a woman that I’ve been seeing for several months now. We started off great, great vibe, great company, great sex, etc. Things never really progressed though. Despite how much time we’ve spent together, I can’t honestly say I’m any closer to her than when we first met.
I’ve tried to connect with her more but my efforts yield little to no results. When something is wrong, I’ll ask but she won’t tell me. When I ask her what’s going on in her world, she won’t tell me anything beyond the high level. I’ve tried conversing with her on various topics and unless it’s something she already has a direct interest in, she is either unable or unwilling to engage.
On the other side of it, she doesn’t ask me about what’s going on in my life. Despite the fact I am working on several personal goals, she never asks me about any of them. She doesn’t even ask me how my day went! Honestly, if I don’t speak to her, we sit in silence (this isn’t an exaggeration, I tried it).
Unfortunately, the lack of communication isn’t the only issue. Outside of working, hanging out with me, going out with her friends… she doesn’t do much. She doesn’t know where she wants to go or what she wants in the next few years of her life. She has no hobbies, no clear personal goals, etc.
Wow, the more I write about her, the more I realize how negative all this sounds. Let me make one last point and then I’ll switch it up.
The most ironic aspect about her though, is that she complains about me not being in a relationship with her (usually when she’s had too much to drink, which is also another real problem). Here’s the thing, I have told her exactly why I haven’t made us official and exactly what I needed and wanted from her in order for me to move forward. This fell on deaf ears.
She wants to be in a relationship but from my perspective, she just wants the title; and not everything else that comes with it.
So why do I keep her around? Why haven’t I let go of her? Well, a few reasons. She’s a source of comfort for me. Except for when she’s had too much to drink (which happens more often than it should), she is literally no drama and no stress. When we’re together, we have a good time. Be it watching something together, smoking, fucking, going to a movie, dinner, etc. It’s always a good time. And the other side of it, despite me expressing why I haven’t moved things forward, she still comes around.
She is a sweet woman and very sensitive. I can tell she wants to be loved and accepted, but I can’t do that if she won’t talk to me beyond a superficial level. And at this point, I’ve stopped trying…
We went on a road trip and it pretty much solidified my stance.
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