When I was younger, I would fantasize about the woman I wanted to be with. I could see her clearly, her personality, all her amazing qualities. And I would get so excited to think about this woman and I couldn’t wait to meet her. But something happened following those thoughts; a question popped into my mind.
Am I the type of man my ideal woman would want to be with?
This got my gears turning, but in a different direction. As I pictured my perfect woman, I then came up with the picture of the perfect man for her. This man is who I need to become for a woman like her to be proud to call her man. I’ve never forgotten this thought exercise and it has taken me far. This image revealed to me many of the behaviors that I needed and continue to need to work on.
Communication is a big one. I feel like this common across the board. Over the past few years, I can confidently say my communication skills have improved immensely but there is still room to improve (I’m also going to spend a post talking about communication). I also realized that I’m very impatient and my expectations of people were often unreasonable. This was big for me and upon realizing it, I became much more compassionate and understanding; not just of the women I date, but people in general. It feels great too. I don’t get annoyed as easily and I’m not wound up like I used to be. I still have my moments, but I can see the growth I’ve made. Another one is romance. I didn’t even realize how bad I was in this area until several of my exes complained about it. I’m still working on this, but I’ve learned that it requires paying attention and consideration. When you know your partner, you’re empowered to make her heart flutter. I swear, it’s the smallest things that make a person fall in love with you over and over again.
Those are the things I need to work on to provide what she needs. There are also things I need to have to satisfy her desires. For example, my ideal woman wants a strong, confident, leader. My being shy as a kid is not going to cut it here. I know she also wants a man who is ambitious and is constantly striving to be better. I got goals and I review them regularly. And one way I’m working to be better is learning another language. It’s something I’ve always wanted to do and it’ll benefit my children when I have them. What’s more, it takes dedication and consistency; qualities that any person would want to see in their partner.
I think I’ve made my point though. Picture your perfect partner. Now picture the type of person they would want. Are you that person yet? If not, why not? What are you going to do about it? Let’s all work on becoming our best selves. Not just for our partners, but for ourselves and the world around us. We all thrive when we operate as our highest self.
So tell me, who is your perfect partner? Are you their perfect partner? Are you working to be that person? Let me know in the comments!
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