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    I got Catfished

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    Monday, 20 August 2018 / Published in Dates, Experiences, Lessons and Advice, Online Dating

    I got Catfished

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    We’ve all heard the stories and seen the TV show, but I never thought it would happen to me. I mean, there’s google image search, right?

    Alright, to be frank, it wasn’t a full catfish.

    I got “body” catfished.

    Listen…

    I connected with this woman online. She only had neck up photos (red flag I ignored). She was very attractive and we connected well. Her face was thin, so I took a chance.

    One day, I just happened to be in her part of town and asked if she wanted to meet up. We decided on a Chinese restaurant. I got there before her and got a table. I could see the front of the restaurant and essentially everyone who was entering and leaving.

    I remember seeing someone come in and begin walking around tables. I immediately ignored this person because they were… big. As I continued to look towards the door, I noticed out the corner of my eye, that same big person I had ignored was walking towards me. I looked up and…

    “Oh shit, that’s her”

    Those were the exact words in my mind. She was wearing heels and taller than me. For reference, I’m 5′ 10″ and weighed probably 165lbs at the time; fairly thin with an athletic build.

    This woman was pushing close to 300 lbs if not more. I wish I were exaggerating about this.

    I knew immediately that this wasn’t going to go anywhere, but I made the most of the date. She truly was very pretty. Absolutely stunning woman in the face and interestingly enough, she carried none of her weight in her face. We sat, ate, had a great conversation. The date went pretty well actually. Although I have to admit, I could tell she was nervous and probably self conscious. I felt terrible because even though she was pretty and the vibe was pretty good, I wasn’t attracted to her.

    When we decided to leave though, I led her out. I feel really bad writing this, but again, I wish I were exaggerating. As she headed towards the door, she had to turn sideways to get through people and furniture and she still managed to rub against some of the chairs (she carried her weight in her hips). I shit you not, I walked straight through. Now I admit, I’m fairly small (32″ waist), but I remember that moment distinctly, because I knew that this wasn’t going to go anywhere and I got the feeling that she’s dealt with this before.

    I truly felt bad because I knew I wasn’t attracted to her (my preferences) and I felt even worse and sorry her knowing that she has to deal with being rejected (probably yet again) because of her weight.

    I genuinely hope she’s found someone that accepts her and that she’s happy. She deserves it.

     

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