Alright, so I have been seeing this woman Mary off and on for about 2 years now. When we met, I knew immediately that nothing was going to come from it. Why? I don’t find her attractive.
I did tell her early on that I wasn’t interested in anything serious with her, never told her why of course. She said alright that’s fine, we can still hang. Of course, we end up fucking. Not gonna lie, the sex is actually really on point. Despite me not finding her that attractive, she’s one of my favorites. I would always be reluctant to hit her up to smash but would do it anyway, and sometimes I’d feel bad afterwards. Anyway, she caught feelings and was basically like, “fuck you, you ain’t shit, blah blah blah”, the typical.
We didn’t talk for a while and then eventually she hit me back up. This has happened at least twice. The last time, she seemed to have accepted that we would never be. So I was cool with us still hanging out. I tried to keep the sex out of it but she wasn’t having it (and I didn’t really want to say no). For a while, we were in a good place. Just hanging out, occasionally getting it in, etc. but things were alright with us.
Fast forward a few months, she complains about me not really telling her what’s going on in my life and that I should be able to do so if we are truly friends. I actually agree and things have been good, so I decide to start telling her more about what’s going on in my world. Eventually, I reveal that I’m dating other women. At first, she seems fine with this and there are no issues. Then a few weeks ago, she reveals that she’s hurt because I never gave her a chance and she didn’t understand why I wouldn’t despite us getting along “fairly” well. I tell her that it’s because we’re in two different places and that we wouldn’t get along. She didn’t buy this initially of course, but eventually she got angry and convinced herself that I was right and she knew we would never work because of how I am. I was ok with her thinking this.
Anyway, after all that, things seemed to settle down and we’re back to being truly friends. We talked about it and made it clear that we were just going to be friends. Then the last couple times we hung out, she just completely blew up and snapped on me. Completely untriggered. I let her speak her peace despite her not really saying anything. She would say things like, “You’re just so… ugh, I can’t believe you do me like this” and when I ask her what she’s talking about specifically, she’d reply with, “I’m not even going to explain it to you, cause you know”. (eye roll) Eventually she calms down and we part ways.
Few days later, she apologizes and again things seem alright. We’re texting, just conversing, nothing major. She then texts me and says that I’ve been keeping the attention she wants from her (translation: the dick). I tell her that I’m a bit hesitant to go there with her anymore given how she’s been coming at me lately. She actually apologizes and asks me not remove sex from our relationship. To be honest, I haven’t decided what I’m going to do. Logically, I know I should probably leave it alone, but not going to lie, the sex is on point and I do want it again with her.
I’ll let you all know how this plays out.
I know I’m not the only person who’s experienced this, so tell me your story. How did you handle it?
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