Remember a while back I reconnected with a young woman name Tyla who was polyamorous? Well, that dating journey has already come and gone.
In the beginning, we spoke about polyamory and what we both wanted. Now I normally don’t date polyamorously, but I knew that if I were to go full bore into that lifestyle, I would want to form a closed FFM triad. This was expressed to her and she seemed down for the cause (or at least, I thought she was). We spent time together, went on dates, the whole nine. Things were really going good but then her demeanor started to change. I noticed she wasn’t as engaged and seemed to be pulling away. As a result, I started to lose some interest in her.
Well, we got together again and she revealed to me that she was going through some personal things and just kinda distanced herself from people. No big deal. But in this same conversation, she also revealed to me that she had gotten back together with a guy she had stopped seeing a few weeks prior. She also revealed that she met a new guy that she recently started seeing. Now I know what you’re thinking? I probably had a problem with these other guys. Not quite, but they did raise some questions. I’ll explain below.
In one of our last conversations, she then revealed to me that she was going to become a sugar baby. Why? Because she felt that she was giving too much of herself, time, and money to guys that weren’t reciprocating on the same level. As a result, she wants to date guys that have the means to provide a more exciting time for her. Again, probably thinking I had a problem with this.
The truth is, I actually had no problem with the additional guys. What I had a problem with was that she although she said she was down for the cause (closed FFM triad), she was only meeting male suitors. If she had been dating women in addition to these men, I may have maintained my interest. Later conversations revealed that the triad was never a specific goal but rather, she’d be open to it should it arise. Unfortunately, this doesn’t work for me as my goal is to have children and live with my woman (or if doing the poly thing, ‘women’). Further, from the sound of it, it seemed like she wanted to be poly until she found someone specific to settle down with. Full disclosure here, I have no idea what this woman wants, what her plans are, or her end goals. Legit, this is what turned me off to her. She comes across as being all over the place and not having a clear direction.
Ultimately, it became clear that we both wanted different things and we decided to part ways. So that’s that I guess… learned a lot though. Honestly, I’m more inclined now to explore polyamory on a more serious level.
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